What does bombarding them with presents teach our kids?

I read a newspaper article last week about a couple who had decided to ‘cut down’ on presents this year and set a budget of £600 for each of their two children. However, they have already gone over it, and that’s just on toys – they hadn’t even started buying clothes yet. And that’s for one child aged three, and another who’s only ten months! Yet it’s a story that could be repeated up and down the country. The couple were included as an example of ‘generous’ givers, but that’s not quite the word I’d use to describe it.

My problem is not so much with the ‘commercialisation of Christmas’, or even a desire for people to remember the ‘reason for the season’. As Sunday Times bestselling author Mark Forsyth writes in a book about the origins of Christmas traditions: ‘Once upon a time, there was no such thing as Christmas. And then Jesus was born in Bethlehem, and after that there was still no such thing as Christmas. For hundreds of years’. The Bible doesn’t tell us to commemorate Jesus’ birth, and the idea of doing so didn’t occur to Christians for hundreds of years after the event.

My concern however is that what we do at Christmas often shows what really matters to us. So we buy a lot of stuff for our kids because, as adults, we get our identity from what we have. We get them the latest iPhone, the latest ‘in’ toy, the latest fashion accessory. Are any of these things wrong in themselves? Not at all. But in bestowing them on our children repeatedly, we confirm to them the lie that their identity is found in stuff. And then we wonder why they grow up insecure in who they are in themselves – and easily become victims of social media anxiety. When actually it’s largely because we have trained them to measure their worth by what they’ve got and how they compare to others. And even though we have always got them the latest, the newest, the best – we still wonder why they grow up with a sense of entitlement!

Or we use stuff to compensate for what they really need and want – our attention and affection. We’ve been working too hard, we know they haven’t seen much of us, but here have the latest doll/iPad/flatscreen TV to see how much I love you. And we try to buy our way into their hearts.

I’m currently reading a book by a pastor who says he’s amazed at the number of adults he comes across who still struggle in life because they could never get their mums or dads to say ‘I love you and am so pleased with you’. It turns out that it’s much easier to buy children stuff than spend time with them or say those simple words.

But do our children really think they can be bought with shiny things? As the years pass they learn to measure their love by what they’re given. And then we wonder why they grow up to see love as some sort of contractual arrangement – ‘If you love me, you will do this/give me this’.

These are not small matters. They are foundational to shaping and framing our children’s identity. And their identity will shape how they see life, how they respond to trials, disappointments and loss. What we do in December shapes them for January to November. And then repeat.

If all year we worship money and belongings, why stop at Christmas to remember Jesus? We have already chosen our saviour—the one who loves us, supplies what we need, brings us joy, secures our future, defines who we are. ‘Behold you shall call his name Stuff, for he shall save his people from their griefs’.

Except that it doesn’t. Simply having more stuff doesn’t bring happiness. The maddening pursuit of possessions will not save us, but starve us – leaving us at the whim of every upgrade, and every recession. In teaching our children to hang their identity on what they have we set them up for a crashing fall. Only God is a strong enough hook to hang our identity, future and joy on. There is more to life than stuff. We are made to be more than consumers. But the lessons start well before Christmas.

To be published in the Stranraer and Wigtownshire, 24th December 2019. Based on a similar article a few years ago by Mark Loughridge

Primary School visits

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Stephen recently spent a morning in Rephad Primary School, taking a P7 class along with Dumfries & Galloway Scripture Union worker Owain Evans. It was part of an SU Scotland programme that seeks to get behind many of the myths and traditions of this time of year and see what the Bible actually says about the birth of Jesus. Stephen helped run a Scripture Union group in the school earlier this year, so it was a good opportunity for ongoing contact with those who attended.

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Stephen and Owain plan to do further visits this week in Kirkcolm and Sheuchan, and Owain will visit Port William, Belmont and Park with Daniel Sturgeon (the new baptist pastor) and Portpatrick and Castle Kennedy with Stephen Ogston (Glenluce).

New ministers in Stranraer and Ayr

Stephen recently had the opportunity to attend two inductions of new ministers within about 6 weeks of each other. The new Stranraer Baptist pastor, Daniel Sturgeon, was ordained in October, and then Rev. Graeme Craig was inducted in Ayr Free Church Continuing in November.

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Stephen pictured alongside Stephen Ogston (Glenluce) and new Baptist pastor Daniel Sturgeon

After a period of ministers leaving, we are glad to see two new gospel-preaching ministers in this very needy part of Scotland. We are thankful for good relationships with both churches and look forward to further partnership in the gospel in the years ahead.

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The reception following Rev. Graeme Craig’s induction

The Law of God: The Purpose of the Law

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In the latest issue of ‘Good News’, Stephen finishes his series on ‘The Law of God’. You can read the article below. You can read Part 1 here and Part 2 here.

There was a time when my ideal birthday present would have been a Swiss Army knife. And of course, the defining thing about Swiss Army knives is that they don’t just have one function. As well as a knife blade or two you get a screwdriver, a bottle opener, scissors and more. Well, just like a Swiss army knife, God’s law has a number of different purposes. It’s to be used in different ways in different situations. For example, whether we are believers or not, one of the main purposes of the law is to show us our sin and drive us to Jesus. However from what we’ve seen in our first two articles, it should already be clear that God’s law is for more than that. It’s actually to be lived out in our daily lives. The Ten Commandments have been in place from the beginning of creation. They’re based on who God is, and he doesn’t change. That means that if we are to live in this world as God would have us, we need by his grace to structure our lives around them. They are the instruction manual for our lives; to try and live without them will ultimately bring frustration and despair.

 When Jesus was asked what the greatest commandment was, he replied ‘You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. This is the great and first commandment. And a second is like it: You shall love your neighbour as yourself. On these two commandments depend all the Law and the Prophets’ (Matthew 22:37-40). What Jesus did there was to summarise the Ten Commandments. The first four commandments are about loving God, and the rest are about loving our neighbour. So if you as a Christian want to know what it looks like to love God and to love your neighbour, you need the Ten Commandments.

On his last night on earth, Jesus was preparing his disciples for life on earth without him. And one of the things he said to them that night was: ‘If you love me, you will keep my commandments’. And what are his commandments? They are these same Ten Commandments which have always been God’s standard.

 In fact, the Ten Commandments aren’t just the ten most important of God’s laws. They include all of God’s other commandments as well. Think of the Ten Commandments as a filing cabinet with ten drawers. Every single one of the commands of the Old and New Testaments fits into one of those drawers. For example, Colossians 3:23 says: ‘Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men’. That in itself isn’t part of the Ten Commandments. But the fourth commandment, which is about keeping the Sabbath holy, also says: ‘Six days shall you labour and do all your work’. So you could keep Sunday holy. You could spend the whole day as it’s designed; worshipping God, spending time with his people, and thinking about him. But if you’re half-hearted in your work Monday through Friday, you’re not keeping the commandment.

 That’s true of all the rest of the commandments as well. Jesus says all the law and the prophets depend on them. So the command about not murdering is also a command about taking active steps to preserve life. Most of the commandments are in the format ‘You shall not’ because it’s easier to state the negative – but they also include the positive. If the commandments were to start: ‘You shall…’ they would go on indefinitely. But we are still to understand them as including positive duties as well as negative prohibitions. Think of how Jesus summarises them – they’re about loving God and loving our neighbour. Can you love your neighbour just by not murdering him and not lying to him? No! You also need to do things for him as well! And so for each commandment we should be asking not simply ‘what does this stop me from doing?’ But ‘what does this mean I should be doing instead?’

 It’s also very important that we don’t think about the Ten Commandments without thinking about the work of the Holy Spirit. Our Confession of Faith, which sums up what we believe as a church, says that obeying the law isn’t contrary to the grace of the gospel, because the Spirit of Christ enables us to do freely and cheerfully what the will of God revealed in the law requires to be done. That implies that if we leave the Spirit out of the picture, then any attempt at law-keeping will be contrary to the grace of the gospel.

 This part of the Holy Spirit’s work had been prophesied by the likes of Ezekiel (36:27), when God had promised: ‘I will put my Spirit within you, and cause you to walk in my statutes and be careful to obey my rules’. Part of the Holy Spirit’s work in our hearts is to enable us to obey God’s commands.

 Before we’re Christians, we’re not able to obey the Ten commandments. Yes, we might be able to outwardly keep some of them, but our motivations are wrong. But once we become Christians, we become able to keep them. Not perfectly of course – we still break each of them every day. It’s only in heaven where we’ll keep them perfectly and no longer be able to sin. But now, it is possible for us to keep them. Not by relying on our own strength. But by the help of the Holy Spirit.

 Going back to the Swiss Army knife illustration, the law has one further purpose which we haven’t time to consider in these articles – and that is to restrain evil. It’s no coincidence that when God’s law is sidelined, society begins to quickly fall apart. Although the law itself cannot change the heart, when it is implemented in society and backed up by punishments, it helps hold back evil and maintain civil order.

 Our focus in these articles however has been to focus on the law’s relevance to us as individuals. And let us always remember that if we’re Christians then we receive God’s law as individuals who have been redeemed. The law was originally given to those who had been redeemed from Egypt – but that was just a foretaste of a greater redemption that lay in the future. In the words of Sinclair Ferguson, believers today ‘receive the moral law in Christ who has fulfilled its ordinances and suffered the penalty of its breach in our place, as well as in the power of the Spirit who energizes Christ’s people to fulfil it in their own lives’. May that be the experience of each of us.

William Symington (Part 3): The Glasgow Years

The final part of Stephen’s series on former Stranraer minister William Symington is in the most recent issue of Good News. You can read it below:

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Few people in the history of the Reformed Presbyterian Church have ever preached regularly to thousands, but William Symington was one of them. In a 23-year ministry in Glasgow, from 1839 until his death in 1862, he preached weekly in a building that held 1000 people. His evening services in the Great Hamilton Street congregation proved so popular that he began a third service in the afternoon. About a year after moving to Glasgow, he wrote in his journal: ‘The crowd at evening lecture most overwhelming; many hurt in getting in: hundreds not able to find admission: house filled in five minutes after door opened’.

Symington’s decision to move to Glasgow had not been an easy one. After seventeen years in Stranraer, he had received a call to another Glasgow congregation (West Campbell Street), having previously turned down a call to Dumfries in 1829. His journal shows how he wrestled with the Glasgow call, but in the end the Synod refused to sustain it. At that time, the idea of a minister moving from one congregation to another was almost unheard of. The same congregation called him again the following year, but that time he refused it himself. However, in 1839 the Great Hamilton Street congregation called him, Synod eventually sustained it, and he went.

A snapshot of what a typical service would have looked like is recorded in a contemporary book entitled Our Scottish Clergy. On the day in question in 1847, Symington’s service consisted of the singing of four verses of a psalm, a prayer and the reading of part of another psalm, followed by a twenty-minute psalm exposition. Another short passage was read before a 55 minute ‘lecture’, and the service was concluded with prayer, singing and the benediction.

After a short break, there was an afternoon service, which consisted of singing, ‘a prayer of much fervour and very great length’, a reading and a sermon. The reviewer noted that ‘the only thing remarkable in the public services of the Reformed Presbyterian Church is their exclusive use of the psalms – paraphrases and hymns being both prohibited’.

Although the congregation was large, a sense of fellowship was kindled through society or fellowship meetings. These weekly small-group meetings had been part of the fabric of the Reformed Presbyterian Church from the very beginning. Detailed rules for how such meetings were to be conducted had been published by the denomination in 1782 and 1823. The Great Hamilton Street congregation had twenty-four such groups meeting regularly, at which, as one of Symington’s elders explained, ‘a text or subject previously appointed was then discussed by all present’. Symington’s journal records his careful weekly visitation of these meetings and in later years he assigned ‘Fellowship Meetings’ as a subject for research and report by his students at the Theological Hall. During Symington’s time an objection was raised against an elder-elect who did not consider these meetings ‘necessary in the present age’ – he was not ordained!

When Symington moved to Glasgow, the membership of the congregation was little over 300 – and decreasing. However, at his first communion season in Glasgow, 65 names were added to the membership roll. Entries were made twice each year, at the October and April communion seasons, and the number of new members each time seldom fell below 40 in all the years he was there. By 1853 he calculated that there had been over 1500 admissions to membership during the sixteen years he had been there. With the total membership now at 993, a daughter congregation was formed, as the church building was no longer large enough to hold even the members and their families. Later that same year we find Symington asking for the help of an assistant, because despite all the deductions caused by immigration, the planting of a new congregation and death, there were still more than 900 people on the roll.

Nor was this a loose membership. Symington divided the entire number into geographical areas. An elder was assigned to each of these areas and given the responsibility of calling on the members in it. The record of these visitations was reviewed twice a year. There were decreases in membership during the pastorates that followed and preceded Symington’s, but while he was minister three new congregations were formed and by the time of his death the membership of the mother congregation was treble what it had been when he arrived. Roy Blackwood comments that ‘few if any other congregations in the denomination could have mustered even 500 members during these years’. On Symington’s death, the Synod noted ‘we have reason to believe that not only did the congregation grow in numbers but that many were by his instrumentality brought to the knowledge of the truth and savingly converted’.

Symington particularly invested in the young men in his congregation. Thirty men who were either members of, or connected with, the congregation became ministers, including two professors of theology and three missionaries.

One of those who became a professor in the RP Church and later the Free Church was William Binnie. After Symington’s death he recalled ‘I can never forget a parting visit I paid him in his study one day in the autumn of 1845. I was going off to spend a winter on the continent. He made me kneel along with him, and commended me to God in a prayer which affected me far more than any public prayer of his had ever done: it was so simple, so warm, so clearly an outpouring of the heart’.

One of those who became a missionary was the famous John G. Paton. Paton had been an elder and city missionary in Great Hamilton Street and then in Green Street, where a church, manse and school were purchased. When Paton felt the call of God to go and serve as one of the RP Missionaries in the New Hebrides, he was famously warned by an elderly gentleman ‘you will be eaten by cannibals’. Paton writes ‘even Dr Symington…repeatedly urged me to remain at home’. His ‘beloved minister’s’ reasons seem to have been the success Paton was seeing at home, and also the threat the cannibals posed to his life.

It would be wrong, however, to conclude that Symington was unmoved by the claims of mission. From the beginning of his ministry he had supported the claims of Jewish mission, and when in Stranraer had hosted a meeting to support Thomas Chalmers’s scheme of Church Extension in the Church of Scotland.

During his time in Stranraer, he heard Alexander Duff speak of the National Church’s plan for Christianising India. He wrote in his journal: ‘I reckon it a great privilege to have heard and met with this great and good man. May it be blessed for increasing my zeal for the conversion of the heathen’. Less than three months later, on Old New Year’s Day, 1838, he gathered together the youth of the congregation, read some missionary intelligence and delivered an address on the obligation of Christians to diffuse the gospel among the heathen. A juvenile missionary society was formed, and he prayed ‘May this be the commencement of a mission to the heathen from the Reformed Presbyterian Church in Scotland’. Years later, in Glasgow, he wrote in his journal that he had met David Livingston and his wife and ‘had a long conversation with the great African traveller’. 

Symington’s friendships with men in the evangelical wing of the Church of Scotland testify to the fact that he was far from narrow in his outlook. The nineteenth century was a time of great religious and philanthropic societies (Bible societies, widow and orphan societies etc), and Symington was involved in many of them from the beginning, alongside evangelicals from other denominations.

He preached in many churches outside his own denomination. Shortly after the formation of the Free Church he was asked to preach the opening sermon at an interdenominational conference to mark the bicentenary of the Westminster Assembly, where the key documents of British and American Presbyterianism had been drawn up. That sermon, entitled ‘Love one another’, included a call for unity, which helped lead to the first meeting of the World Evangelical Alliance, two years later. Through Symington’s influence, the Credal Basis of the Alliance included a reference to the Mediatorial Kingship of Christ. Explaining the remarkable interest of the Reformed Presbyterians in the Evangelical Alliance, the denominational magazine said ‘we know none that are under greater obligations to hail and further the cause of union than the followers of the Scottish Reformers, and the professed friends of the Solemn League and Covenant’.

Symington was called home at the age of 66 on 28th January 1862. His final journal entry, written two weeks before, reads: ‘Still weak as ever’. James M’Gill, who had turned his horse around 30 years before after Robert’s death, took his memorial service. He preached on Hebrews 11v4: ‘He being dead, yet speaketh’. Over 150 years later, through his writings which have been republished in our own century, people around the world are still hearing William Symington speak today.